Tanner Sigler- Family Relations Blog

      Sex can be an uncomfortable topic of discussion for anyone, but it doesn't have to be. Sex is meant to be a beautiful thing, ordained of God to bring enjoyment to a marriage. Sex isn't just physical, sex is emotional and relational. In order to have great sex you need more than just a comfortable bed. In this blog, I'll discuss some of the various aspects of sex.     Let's begin with when we should learn about and discuss sex. I'm not going to tell you what is right or wrong because obviously everything I talk about can be right for one person, and wrong for another. For me, I began to learn about sex when I was about ten years old. My parents would help me feel comfortable and then talk to me about what sex is. At first I was incredible uncomfortable. I would sit in the fetal position and rock back and forth. But although I appeared to be uncomfortable, I was listening. For kids today, pornography is readily available. Learning from my parents about how s...

    My wife Dani, and I got married in October of 2021. Best decision of my life! I am so grateful to be married to my best friend. After we dated for a while, we started talking about marriage and I quickly learned that while we shared the same opinions on most aspects of marriage, there were definitely a few things that I never even thought of. I learned that marital traditions vary between families and generations. Here's my story:     Let me begin with how we started talking about marriage. Just from dating her, I knew that Dani would make a wonderful wife. We shared the same views on religion and politics. I knew she had great integrity, she was kind, fun, playful, and loved being with her family and my family. For her, she was definitely paying attention to who I was, but she didn't want to talk about getting married until she had prayed about it first. So here is the first tradition to be put into question: should you pray about who you should marry, or if the...

 What do you feel when I bring up dating? Whether you are single or married, dating can bring up so many different emotions. For me, dating was fun, terrifying, awkward, romantic and everything in between! Dating is something that should require plenty of effort and not be "off the cuff". In my class this week we talked about the 3 P's of dating: Planned, Prepared, and Paid. Let's break this down a bit.     Planned. A date should be very well thought out while leaving some room for flexibility. As big a fan that I am of movies, a movie should not be a date unless you have been dating for a while or you're engaged or married. When you are dating someone you should get to know them through conversation or recreation. For me, a date usually consisted of getting dinner/dessert, having an activity planned, and ending with a conversation in a park.     Prepared. A date should be prepared meaning you have everything ready to go. You shouldn't do things randomly, or c...

     We all have someone in our families who lives an alternative lifestyle. The alternative lifestyle can vary in a lot of ways from doing drugs, participating in a different religion, or engaging in homosexual relationships. Today I want to focus on loving those with homosexual attractions. There are theories as to why people are gay, those include genetics, victim of abuse, filling social gaps in their lives, etc. The theories go on and on. Of course these are theories for a reason because not one is accurate for every person who is gay. These attractions can be very difficult for everyone involved. For some, typically depending on your political beliefs, coming out as gay or being told someone you love is gay can be easy, or the scariest thing you've ever had to do. Strictly speaking in general terms, those who come from Liberal families tend to deal with this news better and those who come from Conservative families tend to struggle with this more. What I just talked...